People consider you a slut. You love whipping out your sexual fantasy toy box the moment you make it back to your place with your latest tinder crush.
Anal sex is a standard practice in your sexual repertoire. You have more sexual partners than days in the week. Safe word establishment is a common topic of your late-night conversations. If you agree with one or more of these statements, does that make you sex positive?
Not exactly.
Engaging in late night kink, sharing your bod with more than one sexual partner, and trying adventurous sexual positions can all contribute towards a sex positive status, but there’s a little more to it.
So, what does it mean to be sex positive?
The term ‘sex positive’ is thrown around a lot these days. Good riddance to the days when talking about sex was considered taboo. As a completely natural human function, shouldn’t we all feel completely natural and free to partake in and discuss our sex lives free of judgment and shame? Abso-fu*cking-lutely!
Well, that’s what being sex positive is all about. Being sex positive means that you:
- Harness an open-minded attitude that sex can be a positive experience under safe and consensual circumstances
- Believe in a person’s right to sexual pleasure, including a woman’s right to sexual freedom and exploration
- Remain judgment-free of a person’s sexual preferences (don’t yuck someone else’s yum, if you catch our gist)
- Talk openly about sex with a willingness to learn more about it
- Embrace sex for pleasure, not just making babies
- Accept and encourage sexual diversity
Being sex positive does not mean that you:
- Love sex
- Have no boundaries
- Are a slut
- Are into orgies
- Are into kinky sex
- Are down to f*ck anyone, anywhere, anytime
You can be into ‘vanilla’ sex and still be sex positive. On the other end of the spectrum, you can be into anal sex, whips, double penetration, the works, and still not be sex positive. At the end of the day, if sex is being enjoyed by two consenting adults and it isn’t damaging anyone, who are we to judge?
The sex positive movement is upon us, and we are 100-percent here for it. Just remember; being sex positive doesn’t mean you’re down to f*ck anyone, anywhere and at any time. And boys, please, keep your unsolicited dick pics to yourself TYVM.
