There’s no bigger sexual buzzkill than being struck with a sudden urge to pee when things are heating up in the bedroom. Whether your need to pee causes a sexual halt or mind control feat as you maintain your urinary floodgates until the moment your partner has climaxed, worrying that your bladder is on the verge of spraying the sheets is the absolute worst.

So, why do you feel like peeing when having sex? Is it really a feeling to pee or is it an orgasm? And, what can you do if you regularly feel like peeing during sex? Let’s find out.

Why do you feel like peeing when having sex?

We’ll start with the obvious. If you’ve spent your day consuming litres of water and haven’t bothered to visit the bathroom as often as you should have, the reason you feel the need to pee during sex could be your full bladder.

If you’ve taken appropriate measures to empty your bladder pre-coitus, it all boils down to your beautiful female anatomy. You see, the vaginal cavity sits behind the bladder. During penetration, the penis can put pressure on your bladder causing you to think you need to pee. This is especially true for rear-facing sex positions like doggy style, or when you’re on top. So, it’s not that you actually need to go to the bathroom, it just feels that way.

Are you really feeling a need to pee or is it an orgasm?

If you’re unsure whether you’re coming or going when having sex, you’re not alone. Many women hold off on reaching the point of orgasm in fear that they’re about to release an unwanted golden shower. That’s because the feeling to pee is similar to the feeling of an orgasm.

On top of that, female ejaculation can also be confused with urination (like our sex lives weren’t tough enough, already). Our best advice when caught in an almost sticky situation, is to wait it out a little when you feel the need to pee. Chances are you could be on the verge of a mind-blowing orgasm, and we wouldn’t want you getting in your own way of stopping that.

What can you do if you regularly feel the need to pee during sex?

Get to know your vagina

If you consistently feel you’re being ghosted by the golden flow during sex, spend some time alone getting to know your yourself (the vagina, g-spot, clitoris – the whole shebang). Whether with fingers or toys, masturbation will open a world of possibility to help you grasp your body’s limits when it comes to orgasms, female ejaculation and whether the sensations you’re feeling are linked to peeing.

Mix it up with different sex positions

Alternatively, mix up your sexual positions and see what works best for your body, keeping in mind that rear-facing positions are prone to put pressure on your lady parts. And, in case it needs covering, always maintain regular bathroom visits to ensure your bladder is emptied before getting frisky.

Pelvic Floor exercises

Another way to help with this is to strengthen your pelvic muscles. Kegel exercises can add strength to your pelvic floor muscles, the muscles that support the organs in your pelvis, and the sphincter muscles that open and close when you urinate or have a bowel movement. Kegel exercises can have a number of benefits, including:

  • improved bladder control
  • improved faecal incontinence, which is involuntary bowel movements
  • increased blood flow to sex organs and enhance sexual pleasure

These pelvic floor muscle exercises can be done standing, sitting, or lying down, and they can be done just about any time or place. It’s a good idea to empty your bladder before doing them.

To help locate them if you don’t know what to feel for is while peeing, stop midstream. It’s these muscles you used to pause urination are what you’ll be working on.

Once you’ve identified those muscles, tighten them when you’re not peeing, holding them for five seconds, then relax. Don’t clench your abs, leg, or butt muscles. The relaxing part is important, too. Muscles function by contracting and relaxing.

Work up to a goal of 20 at a time, three to four times a day, and tightening your pelvic floor muscles for five seconds at a time.

Lifestyle changes

Little changes before you get down to it can make a difference too!

  • Limit intake of beverages and food containing caffeine or alcohol. Caffeine and alcohol act as diuretics, as well as being bladder irritants, so they can increase your urge to urinate.
  • Avoid drinking too much right before sexual activity. That will reduce the amount of urine in your bladder.

Most people are able to reduce or even eliminate urination during sexual intercourse with lifestyle changes and Kegel exercises. If your incontinence is caused by an underlying condition, treating the condition may help reduce your incontinence.

Talk to your doctor about any concerns you have so that you can begin finding a cause and treatment options for your incontinence.

This blog is designed to be informative and educational. It is not intended to provide specific medical advice or replace advice from your medical practitioner.